You won’t find your value completely in someone else – you will find it in yourself and then you will attract those who are worth your energy.
Sometimes we try to show the world that we are flawless, hoping that everyone will like us and accept us, but we cannot please everyone and we should not try. The beauty of us lies in our sensitivity, complex emotions and authentic imperfections. When we accept who we are and choose to be authentic rather than who we think others want us to be, we open ourselves to real relationships, real happiness and real success.
There is no need to pretend every day. There is no need to pretend to be someone you are not. You have nothing to prove all the time, because…
1. It is important to respect your own feelings and boundaries.
When you encounter someone who disparages you, disrespects you, or treats you badly for no apparent reason, no become consumed with trying to change them or gain their approval. And remember not to leave any room in your heart for hatred towards them. Just give yourself some healthy space and let karma deal with what they say and do, because every moment you devote to these people will be wasted and every bit of hatred and irritation in your heart will only hurt you in the end.
In fact, some people will always tell you what you did wrong and then hesitate to compliment you on what you did right. Don’t be one of them and don’t let these people constantly take away your energy and joy. Remember it distancing yourself from people who give you negative vibes or unhealthy energy is self-care. Stepping away from situations where you feel unappreciated or disrespected is self-care. Try to honor your feelings and boundaries with respect.
2. People worth impressing want you to be yourself.
In the long run, it’s better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you aren’t. In fact, the relationships that often work in the long run are the ones that make you a better person without turning you into someone other than yourself and without stopping you from growing out of the person you were. So let others take you as you are, or not at all. Speak the truth even if your voice shakes!
By being true to yourself, you bring something breathtaking into the world that wasn’t there before. You are stunning when your passion and strength shine through, when you are following your own path – when you are not distracted by the opinions of others. You are powerful when you allow mistakes to teach you, and your self-confidence is built on first-hand experiences – when you know that you can fall and get back up again. move on without asking anyone’s permission.
Conclusion: Don’t change just to make people like you; learn, develop and nurture yourself and soon the RIGHT people will love the REAL you.
3. YOU are the first person who can change your life.
In every situation you have ever found yourself in, positive or negative, the only common thread is you. It is your responsibility, and yours alone, to recognize that no matter what has happened in your life up to this point, you are able to make choices that will change your situation or the way you think about it. Don’t let the opinions of others disturb this prevailing truth. 피망머니상
What you are able to achieve is not a function of what other people think is possible for you. What you are able to achieve depends primarily on what you decide to do with your time and energy. So stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. Just do your thing. The only people who will blame you for this are those who want you to live a lie.
4. Society’s common measures of value are largely worthless.
When you find yourself trapped between what moves you and what society says is right for you, always follow the path that makes you feel alive, unless you want everyone to be happy except you. Seriously, no matter where life takes you, in big towns or small towns, you will inevitably meet others who think they know what’s best for you – people who think they’re better than you – people who think happiness , success and beauty mean the same to everyone…
They will try to measure your worth based on what you have, not who you are. But you know better – material things don’t matter. Don’t just chase money. Keep up with ideas and activities that invigorate you. Choose things of greater value – things that money can’t buy. What matters is strength of character, an honest heart and self-esteem. If you are lucky enough to have any of these things, never sell them. Never sell yourself short! (Note: Marc and I discuss this in more detail in the “Self-Love” and “Simplicity” chapters. “1000 little things that happy, successful people do differently”.)
5. Life is not a race.
Everyone wants to get there first and shout, “Look at me! Look at me!” But the truth is, most of your happiness and growth comes when you’re moving, not when you’re standing at the finish line. So remind yourself as often as necessary that you’re not falling behind .You are where you need to be. Don’t judge or criticize yourself for how long your journey is taking. Each of us needs our own time to cover our own distance.
And don’t overwork yourself. Remember that you cannot lift a thousand pounds at once, but you can easily lift one pound a thousand times. Small, repeated efforts will get you to your goal…
Work hard. Rest well. Learn to disconnect. Commit to self-care. In the marathon of life, the key is to learn to pay attention and keep your pace.
6. The path to greatest things is through failure.
You are an ever-changing work in progress. You don’t have to be right all the time, you just don’t have to worry too much about being wrong. Fucking is part of the process. The only solution is not accepting it and sometimes not even looking for the right part. If you try too hard to impress everyone with your “perfection”, you will stunt your growth! You will spend all your time pretending and looking a certain way rather than growing up and living a certain way.
Indeed, sometimes it is impossible to live without failure, unless you live so carefully that you do not really live at all, but only exist. And if you’re too afraid of failing in front of others, you probably won’t be able to do what’s necessary to succeed in your own eyes. You have to remember that it doesn’t matter how many times you fail or how chaotic your journey is, what matters is that you keep taking small steps forward. Ultimately, those who don’t mind that failure is inevitable make incremental progress. And YOU can be one of them.
Now is the time… It’s your turn!
Yes, now it’s your turn to stop waiting for everyone’s approval because you don’t need a standing ovation, a bestseller, a promotion or a million dollars. Enough already! You have nothing to prove. Worry less about who you are to others and more about who you are to yourself. I promise you will have less worries and disappointments when you stop looking to others for the validation that only YOU can give yourself.
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